Sex for Women over 50, 60, 70+: Lovemaking and Passion as You Age

Women, Sex and Aging: Tips and Tools for more Enjoyment

Sexy at any Age

It’s long been acknowledged that for human beings, sex is a need, not a luxury. So how do we deal with some of the common problems related to sex and aging? These can include diminishing sex drive (which is unfortunately much more common among women), inability to become aroused or achieve orgasm, and the onset of pain during intercourse*. These issues can have roots stemming from our physical or mental health. Luckily, there are many enjoyable ways to overcome these issues!

Bringing Back Romance

  • Joan Price, author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty, fitness instructor, and expert in sex 50+ tells us to slow down! As we age, it often takes longer for us to warm up. So take your time and enjoy the moment. Kisses and light touch help you and your partner bond. Holding each other before, during and afterwards, is one of the best parts of making love.
  • Participate in sensual activities before you even head for the bedroom: shop for lingerie or sex toys, write notes about your fantasies, give gifts. Exercise together: take a walk, swim, dance–try Zumba, Salsa, or Tango!
  • Set aside time to make love when you feel your best. Late night sex may prove more difficult or unappealing than in the past. That’s okay! Try it in the morning or afternoon.
  • Make laughter a part of your routine. Play games, tease each other, have a playful attitude. Laughter is bonding, joyful, ageless—and sexy.

Tantra
Why do we know so little about this ancient practice? Tantra creates a powerful connection between partners. “Sexual energy is one of our most powerful energies for creating health,” says Christiane Northrup, M.D. Practicing tantric sex is a great way to build intimacy. It is based on the belief that orgasm is not the main objective of sex — that the more you prolong the experience, becoming attuned to your partner and the sensations you feel, the more sexual energy gets channeled back into your body, increasing the intimate connection between and your partner. This same connection lowers our stress hormones and raises our serotonin levels! Click here for four easy beginner’s tips. 

Exercise
It’s no secret that being strong and flexible puts more zest into your sexual routine. But it’s been proven that if we feel healthy and fit, we have a better body image, which radically improves our libido. Kegels and other pelvic floor exercises are  incredibly powerful tools to improve women’s sexual experiences (see here for some great tips). Abdominal crunches, pushups, and back-strengthening exercises can also go a long way toward increasing muscle tone and endurance.

Sex Toys
Sex toys bring sexual thrill and open the lines of communication between partners (not to mention many of them make solo sex an appealing possibility!) They are a wonderful way to help achieve orgasm, and show your partner how best to please you. Vibrators are one of the most popular sex toys, and there is more choice than ever with the range of products on the market. If you’re not sure where to start, here are some helpful resources: vibrator reviews, myths and facts, couples sex toys. Be sure to choose high quality toys and lubricants from a reputable store that cares about your sexual health. (e.g. Good Vibrations)

Happy romancing!

Love, Connie

*Note: If you are experiencing physical discomfort during sex, always see a doctor before attempting these tips.

What are your tips for great sex after 50, 60 and better? Please tell us by commenting below.

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6 Responses to “Sex for Women over 50, 60, 70+: Lovemaking and Passion as You Age”

  1. Joan Price says:

    Connie, thank you for mentioning my book and one of my tips. I’ve got plenty more on my blog about sex & aging: http://www.NakedAtOurAge.com. And for those of us who are unpartnered, I wrote these tips for solo sex: http://betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com/2010/12/10-tips-for-hot-solo-sex-after-sixty.html.

    Many of us don’t realize the importance of staying sexually healthy on our own if we’re not partnered. It’s easy to let it go when we don’t feel the biological urge we used to, but it’s so important to keep blood flowing to the genitals and exercise our pelvic floor muscles. Plus it feels so darned good!

    Thanks for the work you do, Connie.

    Joan Price
    Author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty (Seal Press, 2006), and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex (coming June 2011)

  2. Joan Price says:

    Connie, thank you for mentioning my book and one of my tips.

    Many of us don’t realize the importance of staying sexually healthy on our own if we’re not partnered. It’s easy to let solo sex go when we don’t feel the biological urge we used to, but it’s so important to keep blood flowing to the genitals and exercise our pelvic floor muscles. Plus it feels so darned good!

    Thanks for the work you do, Connie.

    Joan Price
    Author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty (Seal Press, 2006), and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex (coming June 2011)

    • Connie says:

      Great to hear from you, Joan! I think your content is so valuable for senior women. Keeping sexually healthy is, of course, linked to joyful living which is the topic of my forthcoming book, Joy after Fifty! I look forward to reading more on your blog. Maybe we can guest post each other’s blogs! Here’s to vibrant sexuality at any age, single or partnered! Joyfully, Connie

  3. Joan Price says:

    Thank you, Connie, for telling your readers about my work. My new book, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, has just come out! It has readers’ stories and expert advice, and it’s fun to read as well as the most informative guide you’ll find about sex after 50. I hope your readers will click on my blog link above.

    I love the work you’re doing, Connie. Thank you, on behalf of women over 50!

    Joan Price
    Author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex

  4. Bud says:

    One thing for the unpartnered; DON’T be afraid of rejection. The best lover I had in my life was older than my own mother by 4 years, I’m was 48 and she was 72 when she passed away but she was hot to the last months of her life. Everyone needs love, I’m married to a younger woman (my age) now but I still miss here and wish she was next to me today. All you older beautiful women respect yourselves you deserve to be loved WELL and OFTEN.

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